Just now for the briefest of moments I felt like Malcolm Gladwell or Stephen Levitt. I unwittingly conducted a social experiment which told me way more than I expected.
The experience was such a success I’ve parked the blog I had lined up and gone for a playful theme.
I’ve actually found what success looks like and at the same time discovered that it looks nothing like happiness.
How did I do this?
Well, learning from the better blogs around, including the crafty blogs my wonderful wife follows (like Sew Liberated, Tiny Happy) I realised I needed to put a bit more life into my blog with images and colour, try to show that I have both imagination and style, and perhaps even a little bit of soul.
I went looking for free images on the web and found this site which appealed due to its curious name MorgueFILE.
So what did I search for?
I started with “growth”, “flying”, “learning”.
Mostly these were hohum results but I started to get an idea so I did two consecutive searches:
And the result:
showed page after page of children, flowers, trees, fountains, more flowers, love hearts.
had page after page of bank notes, American dimes and silver dollars.
I’m still laughing out loud.
Is society really that strongly conditioned?
Surely happiness is success?
And maybe that is the clue right there.
Happiness is success, but success, as society traditionally measures it, is not happiness.
Indeed it is the tension between happiness and the traditional notion of success which tears at us much of the time.
For they are intertwined. Probably the original and enduring chicken and egg dilemma.
How do you work with this tension?
What does each mean to you?
I’d like to know…