I am proud to be a PCM certified trainer. It has been a true learning gift for me at many levels.
I have been contemplating how I can convey the strength of this model without lecturing in my blog. I think the following is a beginning – let me know how I do.
We have two wonderful and amazing daughters. They light up our day and challenge us at the same time. They are hugely different in their personalities.
In PCM speak Edie (2) is base Rebel, Olive (4) is base Reactor.
I would like to believe that without PCM I would have embraced the differences and understood my children in the way that I do. But I know that isn’t true. I know I’m a better more understanding parent and I connect with my children better as a result of PCM.
This would also apply if they were my employees. In fact PCM has had me shuddering at how I bumbled my way through communication with some of the ‘different’ (to me) people I worked with.
PCM gives me the tools to understand what people need, how they like to be communicated with, how they prefer to engage with you in the first instance. It provides a model which allows me to understand the different shifts we experience in ourselves and those around us. It allows me to bring a bit more light into every exchange.
Back to our Rebel.
The Rebel is characterised by likes and dislikes, their primary engagement is fun.
This doesn’t mean their life or work is all about fun but it is what they need if you are operating in a different space and need to get them charged up and contributing towards your own needs.
Edie comes to us with a cheeky smile on her face – effectively saying ‘let’s play’. If we can satisfy that need firstly then she is more ‘pliable’. She constantly brings ‘play’ into the house, but suitably motivated she brings all the other good stuff as well.
One aspect of the rebel also makes her easy to manage providing you understand her. Rebels either like or dislike and there is almost no middle ground. When Edie says ‘no’ she means “NO!!!” and don’t argue.
At the same time this makes her more open to possibility and happy to decide after experimenting (‘I’ll decide, not you’), at times fearless comes to mind.
If we fought these characteristics we would probably perceive an emotionally sensitive headstrong child who we could never fathom. But that is not the case.
We love our rebel child and because we have this understanding we should carry on that way indefinitely. [pullquote]PCM allows me to bring a bit more light into every exchange.[/pullquote]
Have you got people on your team with different personality structures? Of course you have it’s not a team otherwise.
Do some frustrate or confuse you more than others? Of course.
PCM provides a simple yet amazingly accurate and effective tool which let’s you get underneath your preconceptions and biases and connect with almost anyone.
And that is “How they could know.”
(I’ll cover other characteristic personalities and PCM concepts in future posts.)