In current times it’s inevitable that some of my posts will veer into politics.
With the surreal event taking place in Singapore at present I can’t resist passing comment on how our egos interfere with our effectiveness.
Safe to say if you’re reading this blog your ego is nowhere near the issue it is for the two men meeting in Singapore (which will be like Cage Fighting in suits with no physical contact).
However, we all have egos and they both serve and hinder us.
When you see things upside down, the ego can be extraordinarily funny; it’s absurd. But it’s tragic at the same time.
Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu
If we carefully observe ourselves we’ll see our ego interfere with our lives on a constant basis, sometimes for good, but also to the detriment of doing the right or best thing:
- When we feel embarrassed – resulting in inaction when action is what is required.
- When we fail to acknowledge somebody – because we’re either a tiny bit underwhelmed or a whole lot jealous, or mostly because we are too full of our own importance.
- When we do something we know is ‘not right’ – because it’s what we said we would do and can’t deal with our imagined ignominy in changing our course.
- When we lose focus on a conversation – because no one is listening to us (possibly because their egos are working overtime too, or, simply we are a bore).
- When we interject (my own personal Achilles) – because our ego can’t wait to show ours is bigger, brighter, funnier or more important (yeah right).
Though we may sigh in despair about the events unfolding and the painful rhetoric which will follow, we also need to take a moment to listen to and observe our own ego.
Imagine life if we trained our ego to understand what a good time can be – where it considered not just you but for those around you.
We need to both feed and nurture our ego but at all times be aware it’s with us.
Even if it’s not raging like some of the more public ego’s we see today, we need to actively manage our ego’s impact on ourselves and those around us. It’s a constant work in progress.
Where do you see the biggest impact of ego – either personally or from others?
What can we do to turn this ‘force’ to positive use?